By developing the same self-sustaining virtues, Herr and Haslet-Davis were able to improve their lives tremendously. Yet the virtue we are told to strive for today is not selfish dedication to our own lives, but selflessness.
Just why does selfishness require us to “give back” to others? Have we stolen our success from them?
In his viral blog piece “Marriage Isn’t For You,” Seth Adam Smith proposes that the best kind of love is selfless. When he began to doubt whether he should marry his girlfriend of many years, Smith consulted his father, who offered the following advice: “Seth, you’re
Psychologically, some women hold themselves back by believing that they must play the role of “nurturer,” a moral ideal which is reinforced by . . . the baseless philosophical ideal of selflessness.